You're not the only one curious about what anal sex is. It sometimes even seems as if there is a taboo on 'doing anal'. And some laugh with jokes like 'taking the back door'. But research has shown that 1 in 3 women between the ages of 19 and 44 have tried anal sex at least once. So it is done a lot more often than it is talked about.
We probably don't need to answer the question "what is anal sex". But if you want to try anal, you can read everything in this blog about preparing for the first time anal and what the things are that you should definitely do and better avoid. In short, everything you need to know about anal sex. With these anal sex tips you will make your first anal sex experience great.
Wat is anale seks?
Anale seks is een seksuele handeling waarbij de anus wordt betrokken. Het kan een nieuwe vorm van intimiteit en plezier bieden voor stellen die hun seksuele repertoire willen uitbreiden. Bij anale seks wordt de anus gestimuleerd door middel van penetratie met een vinger, speeltje of penis.
Het is belangrijk om langzaam en voorzichtig te beginnen, met voldoende glijmiddel en communicatie tussen partners. Hoewel anale seks voor sommigen plezierig kan zijn, is het niet voor iedereen. Het is essentieel om te luisteren naar je eigen lichaam en grenzen te respecteren.
Als je nieuwsgierig bent naar anale seks, is het belangrijk om je goed te informeren over de juiste technieken en veiligheidsmaatregelen.
About the first time: It shouldn't hurt.
Anal sex will certainly feel strange at first. It is therefore a different experience than normal vaginal sex. But, if you do it right, it shouldn't hurt at all.
One of the most important anal sex tips: don't forget lubricant when you try anal. Important, because unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own natural lubricant during sexual arousal. For anal sex, it is best to choose a silicone-based lubricant. That is because it is thicker and does not dry up, as a water-based lubricant does.
Some worry that anal sex will stretch things out beyond that, resulting in incontinence. But rest assured that won't happen. The anus stretches enough to accommodate a penis or a sex toy, just as it does the other way around when you have a bowel movement. Then everything springs back to its original shape.
Anal sex can give an orgasm
Although the chances are less than with clitoral or penile stimulation; anal sex can also cause an orgasm. It is easier with men. The prostate is already sensitive and can be stimulated well through the anus. Sex toys can provide just that little bit of extra stimulation. Sometimes even double stimulation, in the case of this one anal vibrator.
But women can also have an anal orgasm. The anus has many sensitive nerves and muscles that are linked to the female genital organ. If that orgasm through anal sex doesn't work, you don't have to blame yourself. Many women can achieve an orgasm very well through clitoral stimulation, but a lot fewer women manage to do so anally. So practice a lot.
Always start slowly
If you want to try anal for the first time, it is best to do so after you have already reached a climax. Your body is then already relaxed and ready for this form of sex. If you want to build it up slowly, you can take a shower together. Have your partner massage the area with a soapy finger.
Experimenting in the shower also ensures that you are clean in that region. A common fear among beginners with anal sex is that it will turn into a mess. But you don't really have to worry about that. Especially after doing a big errand, you don't have to worry about leftovers. The stool is much deeper in the body and does not come into contact with a finger, penis or anal sex toy.
All you need is doing a big errand, using soap and water. A enema can, but is complicated and – say the experts – can irritate your intestinal mucosa and anus. If you want to make sure things are extra clean in preparation for anal sex, you can use an anal shower.
It's a good idea to discuss anal sex with your partner. To avoid the surprise effect, it is best to do this before the clothes are off. You can even agree on a code word that will stop the sex abruptly. Preferably a word that has nothing to do with sex at all, such as "red", from the traffic light system often used in BDSM. You can't see or hear if your partner is moaning in pleasure or pain. In any case, a code word ensures that you are on the same page during the deed.
Use a condom for anal sex
Even if you have one partner, it's a good idea to use a condom when having butt sex. There are a few good reasons for that. In the first place, a condom provides less friction and therefore a softer / smoother penetration and therefore a better experience. In addition, the tissue in that specific area is quite fragile and sensitive to small tears. When you have anal sex, the bacteria that are there can enter your bloodstream through the cracks. Prevention is better…
And a not entirely unimportant anal sex tip is that when you switch from vaginal to anal or vice versa, you also use a new condom. Do not use an oil-based lubricant, as this can affect latex and increase the risk of a broken condom.
Be sure to try toys
Toys are ideal for a casual first anal experience. There are special sex toys for anal sex. You can recognize them by the somewhat tapered shape, with a wider base. That is certainly necessary, because the anal entrance is open while the vagina is closed.
A toy that is not suitable for anal could 'worst case' get stuck in your body. Not something you want to make an appointment with the doctor for. By trying out a little anal plug like this little one prostate vibrator, you can decide for yourself whether you like anal sex and whether you want to continue with it.